I want to be an Orange Rhino

I have a confession: I am a yeller. I hate this about myself. I get frustrated and then I get loud. I desperately want to change. No, I have to change. For my girls, for their girls. I’ve also noticed that Fern has started yelling at Amelia a lot lately. I tell her, “Gentle voices please.” Then I feel ridiculous because I know that I’m basically saying, “Do as I say, not as I do.” I recently read a post by The Orange Rhino. It made a huge impact on me. I also sort of felt relieved that I wasn’t alone, that I didn’t have to deal with it alone. I realized that there were people like me that had changed or were in the process of changing. The Orange Rhino also has a wonderful facebook page where you can get help and support from other orange rhinos. I wanted to share this here because I need to be accountable. My goal is to not yell for a whole week. It’s sad that that sounds like a long time to me. If I make it a week my new goal will be a month. I hate yelling. I hate hearing it no matter who the victim is. I hate doing it. Not only is in ineffective, it makes me feel guilty about the emotional damage I am doing to my children. I have left situations where I lost my patience and yelled thinking to myself, “What the heck is the matter with me? Why would I react that way to my small children?” Of course, my inner monologue uses stronger language. I have a million reasons I give myself for why I yell: I didn’t sleep well, I need to eat something, they are not following directions, I am frustrated about something completely unrelated to my children not following directions. The list goes on. I am certain, though, that NONE of these reasons are good enough to use as an excuse. Nothing can excuse my yelling. My children are precious, delicate gifts and I must treat them as such.  So here I am, about to become an orange rhino.

My precious gifts that deserve a gentle voice

My precious gifts that deserve a gentle voice

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  1. Holly Stock

     /  April 1, 2013

    Awe at least you had the courage to admit it and know that you want the change. That is the first step in changing is admitting there is a problem, right? You are going in the right direction. Although, I would never have guessed you would be a yeller. What has helped me when I feel myself getting upset, is I will start to whisper. The kids are all over that. Listening and trying to figure out what Im saying. ;) I wonder if when you feel like you are starting to get upset, you could start to whisper? lol. Sounds weird, but it has helped me. ;) Just some food for thought. Your children are so very precious!! have a good day!

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    • Thank you, Holly. I can use any helpful hints I can get!!! Whispering is such a good idea! You are a good mom and I appreciate your support.

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  2. Holly Stock

     /  April 1, 2013

    You are welcome Smash. ;) You too are a very good mom!! I am always here to support you. Hang in there. I know for me personally whispering has really helped. ;) I hope it helps you too.

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